Basketball analogy: When fouled, don’t react equally because then
YOU could get a foul (personal foul) too. Pretend to act mechanically to discipline- not like you've been emotionally involved. If your child is misbehaving, be diplomatic, so you don't end up doing something wrong also.
In conflict, say in a kind voice: I
don’t want this to happen! We were all playing so nicely. But we have a safe and
pleasant house for everyone....
If you are having trouble making a larger positive habit-change as a parent, try JUST ONE HOUR a day- i.e., don’t react with anger for just that one hour and let it grow.
Give toddlers freedom and time to play- play is practicing for life and play is personal growth!
As parents, give all the time we need for proper
routines and teaching/learning middos (character development) around the house.
On rushing: Anything done that requires rushing is going to compromise
our parenting ideals, because we can't give kids the time they need to practice and learn and do things independently and right if we have to rush them.
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Try to keep your child's actions in perspective. If this were someone
else's child, would you be so upset by the behavior?
· Think about why your
child is acting the way he is, instead of just getting mad. This will help you
think of ways to help your child.
